How to Worship Your Dominant with Your Mouth

There is a profound difference between giving a blowjob and the art of oral worship. One is a physical act; the other is a ritual. One is about pleasure; the other is about power. For a true submissive, the goal is not simply to get their partner off, but to offer themselves completely, to transform their mouth into an altar of devotion.

This is not a guide for the timid. This is for those who understand that true submission begins long before you touch them. It begins with a thought, a feeling, a surrender. This guide will teach you to elevate your service from a simple task to a profound act of worship. Read carefully, and prepare to kneel with purpose.

The Mindset of a Worshipper

Before your lips ever touch their skin, the scene has already begun. It begins in the quiet corners of your mind, where you make the conscious decision to let go. To be a true worshipper, you must first shed your own identity and become an instrument of their pleasure. It is a delicious, intoxicating release.

Focus on these truths: your body, your mouth, your hands—they are not yours in this moment. They are an altar upon which your Dominant is to be worshipped. Let go of your own orgasm, your own needs. Your satisfaction comes from a deeper place: the knowledge that you are fulfilling your singular purpose in this scene, which is to bring them pleasure. Feel the power in that surrender.

A reluctant worshipper offers nothing. Your devotion must be palpable. Let it show in your eyes, in the slight parting of your lips, in the way you breathe. Your eagerness is the first and most important gift you can offer.

Before You Begin

A true offering requires preparation. You wouldn’t present a gift in a tattered box, and you should not present yourself without first attending to the details. This is not just about hygiene; it’s about showing respect for the act and for the one you are about to worship.

Prepare Yourself:

• Take a warm shower or bath. Let the heat relax your muscles, especially your jaw and throat. Think of it as a purification ritual, cleansing yourself to be worthy of your service.
• Attend to your mouth. Brush your teeth and scrape your tongue. Your breath should be clean and neutral, a blank canvas for their scent.
• Hydrate. Drink a glass of water about 30 minutes beforehand. This helps with saliva production, ensuring you are wet and ready.
• Dress the part. Wear an outfit that makes you feel submissive, whether it’s lingerie, a collar, or nothing at all.

Prepare the Space:

• Set the mood. Dim the lights and light a candle. The atmosphere should be one of intimacy and focus.
• Ready your tools. Have a quality lube and a small towel for cleanup within easy reach. This preparation shows foresight and communicates to your Dominant that you are ready to provide a seamless experience.

Techniques

The mindset is the foundation, but your technique is the language you use to express your devotion. A lazy mouth is an insult; a skilled mouth is an act of worship. Do not rush. Every touch, every lick, every movement should be deliberate and focused, an offering designed to bring your Dominant to the edge of ecstasy.

Once you have knelt and been given permission, your worship begins not with your mouth, but with your hands. Gently take their cock in your hands. Feel its weight, its texture. Use your thumbs to slowly trace the veins. This is an act of reverence. Bring it to your lips and press a soft, closed-mouth kiss to the tip before you begin.

Here are some techniques to add to your repertoire:

• Before taking them in your mouth, use only the tip of your tongue to meticulously explore them. Trace the head, the shaft, the veins. Be slow and deliberate.
• Don’t neglect their balls. Take them gently into your mouth, one at a time, swirling your tongue around them. Use your hands to cup and support them.
• Deepthroating is not a contest; it is a surrender. As you take them deep, maintain eye contact. Let them see the struggle, the tears in your eyes. This visual feedback is intensely powerful. It is a testament to the lengths you will go to for their pleasure.
• As you take them into your mouth, focus on keeping your lips wrapped tightly around the base. This creates an intense seal and a powerful suction that will drive them wild.
• While you are sucking, use the hand at the base of their shaft to gently twist the skin in the opposite direction of your head’s movement. This creates a delicious friction.
• Gently hum while you are servicing them. The vibrations from your throat will travel down their shaft, creating a unique and intense sensation while providing a nice sound for your dom to listen to.
• Pay attention. Do they flinch when you go faster? Do they groan when you focus on a specific spot? A true worshipper is attentive, learning their Dominant’s body and responding to its silent commands as much as the verbal ones.

Dirty Talk

Your mouth is for more than just pleasure; it is for praise. A silent submissive is a mystery, but a vocal one is a testament. Your words are the soundtrack to their power, and you must use them to narrate your devotion. Speak from a place of genuine submission, and your words will become as intoxicating as your touch.

Whisper your worship. Let them hear the desperation and desire in your voice. Here are some phrases to guide you:

Phrases of Begging & Desire:

• “Please, Sir, may I taste you?”
• “I’ve been thinking about this all day.”
• “My mouth feels so empty without you in it.”
• “Can I show you how much I need this?”

Phrases of Worship & Praise:

• “You taste so powerful, Master.”
• “Thank you for letting me serve you.”
• “Your cock is so beautiful.”
• “It’s an honor to be on my knees for you.”

Phrases of Humiliation & Surrender:

• “My only purpose is to please your cock.”
• “I’m just your worthless little slut, aren’t I?”
• “Does it please you to see me struggle, Daddy?”
• “This mouth belongs to you.”

The Climax

The moment of climax is the peak of the ritual. This is where your service receives its ultimate validation. What you do with their offering is a critical part of the scene and should be discussed and decided upon beforehand. Each choice carries its own unique power.

• Swallowing: The Act of Devotion. To swallow their cum is to accept every part of them, to take their essence inside you and make it a part of you. It is the ultimate sign of devotion and acceptance. When you feel them begin to climax, take them as deep as you can and swallow without hesitation. Afterward, look up at them, open your mouth, and stick out your tongue to show that you have taken every last drop. It is a profound gesture of respect.
• Facials: The Mark of Ownership. To receive a facial is to become a canvas for their pleasure. It is a visual, primal act of being claimed. Do not flinch or turn away. Hold still, keep your eyes open if you can, and accept their offering as it coats your face. This is not about cleanliness; it’s about being marked. The act of wearing their cum, even for a moment, is a powerful symbol of their dominance and your submission.
• Spitting: The Calculated Humiliation. In some dynamics, the act of spitting is the desired outcome. This is often used in humiliation play. You might be commanded to hold their cum in your mouth until given permission to spit it into a designated place, like a bowl or onto the floor. This reinforces your role as a mere receptacle, not worthy of consuming their seed. It is an intense act of objectification and should only be explored within a dynamic that embraces degradation.

The End of the Scene

The scene does not end when they cum. A true submissive understands that their service continues until they are formally dismissed. Your first duty is cleanup. Continue to hold their softening cock in your mouth, gently licking and sucking until they are completely clean. This is an act of care and reverence.

If you’ve received a facial, you must wait for their command. Safety Note: If any cum gets in your eyes, you must immediately pause to wash them thoroughly with clean water. Once you have taken care of any immediate needs, do not immediately get up. Remain kneeling at their feet, eyes downcast unless instructed otherwise. Your stillness is a sign of your continued submission. You are waiting, patiently and devotedly, for their next command, until you are formally dismissed. This quiet, patient waiting is the final, powerful statement of your worship.

After the Scene: Aftercare

Once you have been dismissed and the dynamic has ended, the most important part of your interaction begins: aftercare. You have been in a vulnerable headspace, and it is your Dominant’s absolute responsibility to guide you safely back.

Aftercare is about connection and reassurance. It’s about shedding the roles you just played and returning to each other as partners. This can involve cuddling, soft words of praise (out of dynamic), checking in emotionally, and providing simple comforts like a glass of water or a warm blanket. It reinforces that the intensity of the scene was a shared fantasy, and that the person behind the submissive is cherished and valued.

A good Dominant prioritizes aftercare above all else. To learn more about this crucial practice, read our 10 BDSM Aftercare Tips.