A Crucial Note on Safety, Sanity, and Consent

Before we dive in, it’s essential to understand that consensual humiliation is an advanced form of BDSM play that requires an extremely high level of trust and communication. This is not about genuine cruelty; it’s about a shared fantasy of powerlessness and degradation. Before attempting any of these tasks, you must have a clear discussion with your partner, establish firm boundaries, and have a safeword in place. The goal is to explore erotic shame, not to cause real emotional harm.

The Power of Erotic Humiliation

For many, the idea of humiliation is counterintuitive to pleasure. But within a consensual BDSM dynamic, it can be one of the most profound and intimate experiences a couple can share. Erotic humiliation is about the willing surrender of pride. It’s a submissive’s way of saying, “My desire to please you is more important than my own ego, my own image, my own composure.” For a Dominant, it’s a powerful confirmation of their control and their partner’s devotion, seeing their submissive willingly shed their dignity as an act of service.

This form of play taps into deep psychological triggers. It can be a release from the pressures of daily life, a chance to let go of the burden of being a composed adult. For the submissive, there is a unique freedom in being brought low, in being seen in a “pathetic” or “messy” state by someone they trust completely. It is the ultimate act of vulnerability.

Setting the Scene for Humiliation Play

Unlike other forms of BDSM, the right headspace is everything in humiliation. The Dominant’s role is not just to command, but to be the architect of the fantasy. This means creating an atmosphere where the submissive feels safe enough to be vulnerable. The tone should be deliberate. Is this a cold, clinical inspection of their skills, or a rough, degrading use of their body? Is the goal praise for their pathetic-ness, or silence to emphasize their objectification? Deciding on the emotional texture of the scene beforehand is crucial.

The tasks below are designed to explore this dynamic specifically through oral sex, turning the act into a powerful ritual of submission where the stakes are not physical, but emotional and psychological.

1. The Before & After

The scene begins with a ritual. The submissive must take a selfie of their perfect makeup before they begin. After their service is complete and they are a ruined, messy work of art, they must take another selfie from the exact same angle.

This task is a powerful visual metaphor for transformation and the destruction of a “public” facade. The “before” picture represents their composed self, while the “after” picture becomes a trophy for the Dominant—tangible proof of their effect on the submissive. It forces the submissive to confront the evidence of their own messy surrender.

2. The Drool Target

Control is a cornerstone of our daily lives. This task is about consensually giving that control away. While servicing their Dominant, the submissive is forbidden from swallowing their own spit. Instead, they must let their drool drip from their mouth onto a specific target on the floor, such as a small plate or towel.

This act reduces the submissive to an almost animalistic state, removing a basic level of self-control. It’s messy and forces them to focus on a pathetic, secondary goal while performing their primary duty. The contrast between the intimate act and the slightly gross, detached target creates a powerful feeling of humiliation.

3. The Humiliating Script

The Dominant writes a short, degrading script that the submissive must read aloud. This can happen before the scene to set the tone, during to heighten the intensity, or after as a final act of submission. The script should detail their role, their worthlessness, and their singular devotion to their Dominant’s pleasure.

Forcing a submissive to say these words out loud makes the fantasy tangible and real. It bypasses their internal monologue and makes them an active, vocal participant in their own degradation. Hearing the words in their own voice can be an incredibly powerful trigger for sinking deeper into a submissive headspace.

4. The Spittoon

This is a classic and intense act of dominance. Before the blowjob begins, the Dominant uses the submissive’s open mouth as a spittoon. The submissive must accept and swallow the spit without hesitation, a clear and undeniable sign of their complete submission to the Dominant’s will.

This task establishes a raw power imbalance from the very start. It wordlessly reinforces the idea that the submissive’s body is a receptacle, not just for pleasure, but for whatever the Dominant chooses to put inside it. It’s a profound act of trust and surrender.

5. The “Performance Review”

After the blowjob is over, the scene is not finished. The submissive must remain kneeling and give a verbal “performance review” of themselves. They are required to point out their own flaws, detailing where they could have been better, faster, or deeper, and how they failed to please their Dominant perfectly.

This task attacks the submissive’s pride and forces them into a state of self-critique, even after they have done their best to serve. It reinforces the idea that their performance is constantly being judged and that they must always strive to be better for their Dominant, solidifying the power exchange.

7. The Mirror of Truth

This task requires an intense level of psychological confrontation. The Dominant holds a mirror in front of the submissive’s face while they are deepthroating or actively servicing them. The submissive is commanded to keep their eyes open and watch their own messy, drooling, and struggling expression.

This removes their ability to mentally “check out” or get lost in the sensation, forcing them to see themselves as the Dominant sees them: a pathetic, yet beautiful, tool in use. It is a powerful method for breaking down the barrier between the submissive’s self-perception and the role they are playing, making the humiliation feel more immediate and real.

7. The Beggar

Here, pleasure is transformed into a privilege that must be earned through verbal self-degradation. The submissive is not allowed to touch or taste their Dominant until they have begged for it properly. They must explain, in detail, why they want it, what they will do with it, and why they, a worthless slut, don’t deserve it but crave it anyway. The Dominant can deny their request multiple times until the begging is deemed sufficiently desperate and pathetic.

This task strips away any sense of entitlement and reinforces the submissive’s lowly position. The act of begging makes the power dynamic explicit and forces the submissive to vocalize their desire and their unworthiness, a core component of many humiliation fantasies. It’s not just about asking; it’s about earning the right to serve.

8. The Pet’s Meal

This is a powerful act of animalistic degradation that pushes the boundaries of the human/pet dynamic. After the Dominant has finished, they cum on the floor. The submissive must then get on their hands and knees to lick it up like a pet, using no hands.

This act removes the last vestiges of human dignity within the scene, placing the submissive firmly in the role of an animal gratefully cleaning up their Master’s mess. For many, this is the ultimate act of service, proving they will do absolutely anything to please their Dominant, no matter how base or primal the command.

9. The Clown Face

This task is about the destruction of a persona. The Dominant applies makeup to the submissive’s face badly. Lipstick is smeared on the cheeks, mascara on the nose, eyeliner drawn in crooked lines. The submissive must wear this “clown face” for the entire session.

The ridiculousness of the look adds a layer of psychological humiliation, making them feel foolish and further cementing the Dominant’s control over their very image. It strips away the submissive’s normal identity and replaces it with one created by the Dominant, a visual reminder that even their face is not their own.

10. The Facial Countdown

After the Dominant cums on the submissive’s face, the task is not over. The submissive must hold perfectly still for one full minute, letting the cum drip and cool on their skin before they are given permission to clean up.

This task is about extending the moment of degradation and reinforcing the submissive’s role as an object. The wait turns the facial from a fleeting moment into a prolonged state of being. It forces the submissive to sit with their “shame,” transforming the act from a simple climax into a mark of ownership that they must wear, even if only for sixty seconds.

Aftercare is Not a Request, It’s a Requirement

After an intense humiliation scene, aftercare is the most important step. The submissive has been brought to a vulnerable place, and it is the Dominant’s absolute responsibility to bring them back safely. This involves cuddling, soft words of praise (out of dynamic), reassurance, snacks, and water. It reinforces that the humiliation was a fantasy, and the person is loved and valued. Be sure how to give aftercare to your submissive the right way.

For more on the foundational techniques of power exchange, be sure to read our main guide on The Art of the Submissive Blowjobs.